Healing Male Trauma

2018-07-29T12:43:17+00:00 July 29th, 2018|

Embed from Getty Images   I have worked professionally with literally thousands of traumatized young men.   I have also worked with hundreds of traumatized girls and women.  Healing male trauma successfully is a bit unique, in contrast to the work generally done with female victims of trauma.  Not completely different; both genders have the [...]

Why Violence Against Women Will End in Our Generation

2018-07-09T09:28:52+00:00 July 9th, 2018|

Embed from Getty Images I am far from an optimist by nature.  I grew up in untrustworthy Los Angeles, with a street savvy and tough single mother as my role model.  I was raised to distrust virtually everything I encounter.  Yet, after years of working professionally to fight Gender Based Violence (G.B.V.), I am profoundly [...]

Losing a Mentor: The Impact of Death of Anthony Bourdain

2018-06-11T09:42:51+00:00 June 11th, 2018|

Embed from Getty Images It was a serious hit for me the morning I heard of Anthony Bourdain’s demise.  Ironically, I had just finished telling my wife of his story of how his amazing media career blew up from a lone article published in The New Yorker Magazine.  Seconds after I relayed that story, she [...]

Why I am Not Pleased with Weinstein’s Arrest: An Open Letter to Influencers

2018-05-28T10:16:29+00:00 May 28th, 2018|

Embed from Getty Images On the Friday before the U.S. Memorial Weekend, Harvey Weinstein showed up at a New York police station to “turn himself in.” Many of the opinion pieces I read over the weekend hailed this as a major victory for the victims of the #Meetoo movement, and for women worldwide. It is [...]

Are You A “Warrior-Healer?”

2018-05-07T09:12:56+00:00 May 7th, 2018|

What Differentiates a Warrior from a “Warrior-Healer?” Warrior-Healer               For the most part in Western culture, warriors get a bad rap in the morality department. They may be interesting to watch on a T.V. program like, “Vikings,” but you would not really want to be one, or [...]

The Endless Succession of “Nows”

2018-05-07T09:19:25+00:00 April 30th, 2018|

“I have known many sorrows, most of which never happened.” --- Mark Twain Author in South Africa             A few days ago, I was in a beautiful park in London doing my daily Qigong and Tai Chi practice.  I had been at this same location at least 25 [...]

Honor Your DNA

2018-04-23T09:11:27+00:00 April 23rd, 2018|

How do we “honor our father,” or “honor our mother” when they were destructive parents?   Irish Graveyard People who have had even the slightest exposure to the Judeo-Christian worldview and broader Western culture, have heard the Biblical saying, “Honor thy father and mother,” (Exodus 20:12, and Ephesians 6: 1-2). There are so [...]

3 Easy Tools to Rise Above Your Stress

2018-04-09T09:03:19+00:00 April 9th, 2018|

Qigong on the beach Stress is the root cause for 80 % of the visits to the doctor’s office. This is how to avoid that visit. The key factor that affects most men’s health today is not smoking, alcoholism, diabetes, drug addiction, heart disease, etc.  It is stress.  Stress is the root cause [...]

Teach the Children—About Violence

2018-03-19T10:44:15+00:00 March 19th, 2018|

Our children and their children have a right to violence-free lives. Can we not help them there by stepping up as fathers? I unexpectedly became a father of four sons at a young age. Four new lives came into my young life, forcing me to make decisions that affect vulnerable lives besides my own. Frankly, [...]

“Guns Don’t Kill People . . .” MALES Kill People

2018-02-26T07:32:40+00:00 February 26th, 2018|

GENDER is the missing cornerstone in the dialogue around the ongoing epidemic of school shootings, gun violence, gang violence and domestic violence. As a professional working in the field of G.B.V. (“Gender Based Violence”) for the last 16 years, I am exasperated. I have worked with groups of men (including many gang members) in one [...]