“Guns Don’t Kill People . . .” MALES Kill People

2018-02-26T07:32:40+00:00 February 26th, 2018|

GENDER is the missing cornerstone in the dialogue around the ongoing epidemic of school shootings, gun violence, gang violence and domestic violence. As a professional working in the field of G.B.V. (“Gender Based Violence”) for the last 16 years, I am exasperated. I have worked with groups of men (including many gang members) in one [...]

Men & Death

2018-01-28T07:36:11+00:00 January 28th, 2018|

Irish Graveyard   Men cannot “fix” death. The alleged prowess and magnitude of man’s magnificence, awesome power, and ability to transcend circumstances hits a dead end wall encountering death. Men cannot “fix” death.  Hence, death irritates and unsettles men to no end. Men were not designed to deal with death. Even less so [...]

Treat Yourself to a Taste of the Ocean

2018-01-07T15:10:46+00:00 January 7th, 2018|

Photo by author Learn to surf when you get past 50.  It is humbling and enjoyable. It pushes you to extremes in both courage and lung capacity. It is cold and sobering. It will wake you up and let you feel your “aliveness.”  Old dogs can learn new tricks. Having spent a year [...]

2018 Is a Brand New Game

2017-12-31T22:52:47+00:00 December 31st, 2017|

“Old tricks and strategies do not work. Your grandpa’s and dad’s tool kit are not adequate to fix the broken things these days.”   Given the unsettling changes politically and culturally this past year in America, it is clear that 2018 will call for new tools and approaches to ride these changes. will be a [...]

“A Tale of Two Cities” —7 Reasons Why London Beats Los Angeles

2017-10-22T15:32:30+00:00 October 22nd, 2017|

Frank Blaney, a life-long Angeleno points out how the radically different environments of London and Los Angeles compare for men’s health, sanity, and quality of life in this “Tale of Two Cities.” As a lifelong resident of Los Angeles (born, raised, and subjected to interminable internment) I have an intimate knowledge of “La La Land.” Yet, recently [...]

Are ‘Men’s Fitness’ Routines Damaging Your Health?

2017-10-15T14:04:47+00:00 October 15th, 2017|

Author Frank Blaney challenges men’s popular conceptions what it means to be “healthy” and “fit.” Are we killing ourselves by imitating “men’s fitness” hype? American men of all ages are subjected to ‘body shaming.’  Not nearly to the degree that the women in our society are, but still enough to cause psychological and physical damage. [...]

Manhood is Not in Our Groin—It’s in Our Breath

2017-10-08T11:14:53+00:00 October 8th, 2017|

"As I faced many crisis growing up, I always strove for my own ideal of manhood---to be calm as a rock in the storm." From an early age, American boys are brainwashed that their manhood lies between legs. The essence of a “masculine man” lies in what he is able to do with his penis. [...]

Why Men Desperately Need Old Friends

2017-10-01T15:12:06+00:00 October 1st, 2017|

There is an extremely helpful antidote for men being eaten up by distrust of our fellow man---a long term friend.  Many of the men I have known and work with over the years bear the same general baggage I haul around---“trust issues.”  Guilty as charged, indeed, I do.  Having been burned in relationships with women [...]

A Woman Taught Me How to Be a Man—by Frank Blaney

2017-09-24T15:25:27+00:00 September 24th, 2017|

“I saw the flesh and blood answer of how to be a real man---in the strength of a woman.” My mother taught me everything I know about how to be “a MAN.”  Early on in my training as a violence prevention educator, I went through a group training exercise called, “The Strongest Man You Know.”  [...]

“Why American Men Love Violence” by Frank Blaney

2017-09-17T13:48:26+00:00 September 17th, 2017|

Why do American men love violence? American males, regardless of their ethnicity, sexual orientation, social class, etc. are “baptized” into violence. American males, regardless of their ethnicity, sexual orientation, social class, etc. are “baptized” into violence. Within our political, cultural, and historical context, it is the air we first breathe upon as we exit the [...]